r: My head is flooded with an ocean of questions so I thought I'd bug you with one. I hope you don't mind!
Do you ever think that people marry (with the excuse or reality of love) simply to avoid being alone? That being alone is such a frightening concept that they forge ahead into marital bonds to avoid the experience? I look around and see people who marry because it was the "next step" in life, or because they don't want to be alone, because their spouse is physically beautiful. I also hear people say that they date because they can't be happy by themselves. It's weird how that's true for a lot of people. Blaaah... what say you?
ish: well one of the main reasons y ppl get married is coz, as u sd "its the next step". there's a life cycle to follow for every1. study, get a job, marry, have kids, make sure the kids are settled, retire from work, and lead an OLD life.
any aberration is not socially accepted. but most importantly if u dont follow the life cycle u are a "social outcast". and along wid it comes all kinds of branding. ppl start thinking dheres something physically wrong wid u, mayb that u are an homosexual, or jus outright crazy.
its this fear of being a social outcast that make ppl conform to the society. have u ever heard the saying "patters are apriori".
dhere are these set patterns that are made in advance, and u are moulded by the society to fit into this pattern.
also ppl marry coz of their physical/sexual needs. u mite say, u can have sex widout marriage. but then in a country like india, thats exactly not how things go on. is it?
on a personal basis i cant totally deny that im an exception to this rule. though im one who doesnt care much abt the society, i still dont want to be unanimously be hated by the entire population. so i wud rather fit-in.